Adaptation.

Adaptation is essential to our existence as living things, and not only physiologically or physically but behaviourally too. The COVID- 19 pandemic has really uprooted us from our normal way of life. No warning, nothing to fall back on; we are having to adapt to this situation as it progresses.

Lives are being lost, health systems compromised, sources of income and economies have been affected negatively, education stalled and many other services disrupted too. How then do we adapt to this?

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We’ve been told: Wash hands, wear masks, sanitise, limit social interactions, enforce social distancing, all these are important but the disease is still spreading. With no vaccine and cure in sight for now; is this the new way to live for us?

Coronavirus has led to many working from home; how effective is this in the long term? How feasible is it to still meet targets as you run your household or rather your household runs around you? What about working hours? Is it still regular 8-5 when working from home? Already people are complaining about too many webinars and zoom meetings now that we can’t confer face to face. A new kind of fatigue is emerging.

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Food supply has been affected, there was a video of Idaho potatoes going to waste in mid west America some months ago. All that food rotting due to the break in supply chains. Borders are closed in some countries but even when open to cargo, there are long lines and delays due to testing of the drivers taking place at the borders. Imagine the trickle down effect of how long its taking some landlocked countries to get fuel, food, medicine and other supplies that get to them by road.

People are wary of going to the hospital for perceived ‘minor’ ailments and hospital staff are stretched to cope with the demand of Covid positive patients needing intensive care. Hospital workers are at risk and getting infected, even losing their lives as they care for coronavirus patients. The PPEs are either not enough or have disappeared mysteriously (read stolen) but you will see guys fleeing the country in full PPE gear; where did they get it from? I will not even mention the country this happened; we all know it.

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The pandemic has truly exposed once again the vast gap between the poor and the rich. Even though Covid- 19 is no respecter of economic class, some rich people have already built and installed ICU units in their homes; just in case they fall sick, no need to go to hospital as flying out for treatment is no longer an option. It’s ok to roll your eyes at this, I did too.

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Not all children have the luxury of attending school virtually aka Zoom classes. For the kids in public schools, it seems the year is going to be a lost one. There seems no indication of public schools opening too because how will they work around controlling the spread of Coronavirus among students and staff? How do you enforce social distance and wearing masks in those in lower grades for whom play is a language? How long do you think a pre schooler can keep a mask on before it becomes a plaything? And let’s not even get started on enforcing the washing hands/ sanitising rule in kids in Early Years who play and poke and touch and lick whatever is in sight.

We already know we need to adapt. The challenge is HOW?

On top of this, we still have other challenges to grapple with. Increased sexual violence, increased rates of domestic violence and underage pregnancies, increasing rates of insecurity. Globally, the Beirut Blast has brought an already crippled economy to its knees. The Black Lives Matter movement in the US, and some parts of the world is enlightening a lot of us to the ills in the perceived land of the free. In some African countries, talking (not even criticising, talking) about the government’s handling of the pandemic will earn you some nights in the cells. Yemen is on its deathbed as the world watches, the Uyghur Muslims are being exterminated for lack of a better word as we watch. So much is happening around watching news is so triggering!

What is the way forward for the world?

We are a resilient race however. And we should not forget that. One of the immense strengths humans have is the ability to adapt to circumstances as they arise. In the face of all these challenges, a lot more is happening. There are many efforts to seek a cure and vaccine for Coronavirus. Also many inventions coming up that are making life easier and more manageable. As parents we have become teachers for our kids which has brought us closer to them. Our schools and teachers have also had to adapt and come up with new ways of imparting knowledge to our children. The increased time at home with loved ones has immense psychological benefits for the young ones. Have fun with them, drawing family trees, cloudspotting, walks and games with them are more relaxed now and create unforgettable memories with them.

The internet is become more accessible to many, which heralds another information age. Though we still have a long way to go to connect the world. This may also be the biggest space exploration year yet, with the number of space missions happening this year.

Are these trying times? Yes. Is it all gloom and darkness though? I Don’t think so. I still and will always believe in our nature to adapt and emerge stronger in adversity. No matter how dire it gets, We will survive this. We just need to know HOW to adapt.

PS: This was inspired by an article a friend shared this morning, read and get inspired too as we learn how to adapt.

Keeping Kids Busy, or not…

Dear fellow parents,

How are you coping with the kids in this trying time?

Are we communicating with them? How are we keeping them engaged? School activities? Crafts? Games? Cookery lessons? Gardening? Let us share tips.

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We are living in a world we had not anticipated and a few things are coming to light, both positive and negative.

Positives: More open communication with our kids and we get to understand them better right? Isn’t it amazing how different personalities the kids have?

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Another positive is better health; no more sniffles and annoying colds and coughs brought home from school? More family time, YAY! we can now catch up on those activities we kept putting off as we were too busy- time to build the fort with them in the garden, listen to them practice their musical instruments ( early morning and late night in my home).

Negatives: On the extreme, we have increased risk of abuse; especially for those in vituperative environments( physical too). Increased stress and anxiety as they try to understand us too and the situation; and this applies to both older and younger kids. Is your kindergartener pushing your buttons increasingly this period?

Now is the time to teach them to bake or cook simple meals. Ooh the bliss of having your six year old crack the eggs for those yummy muffins. Just make sure they are safe.

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The kids spending a lot of time online exposes them to online predators; are we keeping tabs on them and talking to them about the dangers? What measures are we taking to protect them?

Add to that the stress of not knowing when they are going to complete the school year, especially those in their final year of school, is it all lost? How do we encourage them to not lose hope?

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Are you working from home? Not an easy balance when it comes to ensuring the kids have their online classes; you have your zoom meetings and running the household too ensuring all is in order. It is not easy. And gadgets, you may be having that one laptop or tablet that you work on and all your kids need to access their school work too. These are just a few of our experiences.

These are times we had never anticipated but in true human fashion I believe in resilience and adaptation. There is no manual for what we are living through but we will get through. We have to believe that. I know we are already adapting to this new norms as adults, but let us keep communicating with our children.

Keep talking to and with them, have discussions and questions about what they are feeling, what they want to do during this time, what their fears and hopes are. Let us not make the mistake of keeping quiet and caught up in our adult lives and forget they are learning more of the world by watching and listening to us.

So parents, how are you truly coping in this period?